Tinder is unmistakably the hottest new app on the dating scene. People all over the world are swiping right and left to find love. What, "find love" you say? Yes that's right, even though people have dubbed this app, a "hook-up app", I believe there are as many or more people on Tinder looking for love as there are people looking for hook-ups. All you have to do is start swiping and you will see people writing in their profiles, "looking for a LTR", "here for a relationship, not hook-ups", "looking for the real deal,"etc. So back to the question... "To Tinder or Not to Tinder", many of my clients have found love on this app, and all in a relatively short amount of time. I highly believe in the magic that is tinder. With one swipe, you can be matched with someone who you share friends in common with on Facebook, common interests on Facebook (wow, we both like Yoga!) and within minutes you can start writing texts back and forth. The thing that is so special about Tinder is that one is forced to use not just their animal libidinal brain to make a decision (is he hot or not?!?!)...but also their intuition. With only a small amount of information, as opposed to Okcupid, Match, Eharmony, and the like, Tinder-goers, have to make a choice, otherwise they can't move forward. Swipe right or swipe left? Some even call it a game, "do you want to play tinder?" But really, I think this app has a genius all it's own and I think if you are single you might want to check it out and see for yourself. Of course the downside to this app is the flip side to its genius, you have very little information about someone so there may be a lack of being on the same page - so you must do some sleuthing in the beginning, and ask great questions. Find out where they live, what their career is, what they are passionate about, where they grew up. You will get important information very quickly. Since you don't know why people are using the app, I advise all my clients to ask within the first couple of messages, "what brings you to tinder?" Or, "why are you on this site? " or "what is your intention for being on tinder." Then listen closely to their response. That way you will be able to separate those who just want a hook-up from those who want to create lasting love.
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